We all have health goals. Yours might be to start exercising more regularly so you have more energy to get through the day. Or perhaps you’ve set the goal to shed 20 pounds so you can reduce your risk of disease as you get older.
Whatever the case happens to be, just about any time you set goals, you also risk failing at your goals. Set-backs are a normal part of life but what separates failure and success is how you deal with those set-backs.
As frustrating as they are, learning productive methods of coping will be critical to your well-being. Here’s what to know.
The second thing you need to do is reframe how you look at a set-back. If you currently see a set-back as meaning you failed miserably at something, how do you think this is going to make you feel?
Instead, start seeing it as an opportunity to grow – because that is what it really is.
You made a mistake for some reason. Look at that reason and now use that to fuel your behaviour going forward. For instance, if you always choose to skip your walk in the morning when you drink caffeine late in the day the day before and wind up staying up too late, that’s a sign maybe you need to save caffeine for the morning hours.
The more you learn, the better you get.
It’s also important that you practice some humility as well. Basically, don’t think that you’re too good to make mistakes. Truth be told, everyone makes mistakes. Even the best of the best. Often the best of the best are that way because they made many, many mistakes earlier on and learned from them.
So get humble and don’t let yourself think you’re too good to make mistakes. If you do this, you’ll stop viewing a mistake as a defeating situation.
It’s important that you’re also proactive. Meaning, anticipate set-backs before they occur. While you can’t always predict when you’ll have a set-back and it would be unrealistic to ask you to do so, you can likely look at what’s lying ahead and see if there isn’t something that you could do to prevent it from being as much of a set-back as it is, or a set-back at all.
This does take a bit more work on your part, but if you’re willing to put in that work, it will make a big difference long-term in how you are responding to any set-back that comes your way.
Finally, sometimes a set-back may be an eye-opening experience. For instance, it might mean that you have set a goal that is simply too hard for you to reach. If this is the case, it might be time for a goal change.
Or perhaps that goal really isn’t as important to you as you once thought and that’s why you let yourself slip on your diet in the first place. You just really don’t care that much about fitting into those skinny jeans.
Switching your goal around however may help you accomplish just the same, but with more tenacity. For instance, if the goal now is not so much fitting into your skinny jeans but being healthy and well to see your children’s children, now you may have more impetus to change.
So consider either a complete direction change, or if not, just a focus change. That may just do the trick to get you back on the bandwagon, fired up, and ready to move along.
Set-backs do happen but with these tips, hopefully, you’ll be able to handle them better.
What’s your take on set-backs? How do you stay positive in the face of one? Leave a comment below.
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